Thursday, April 19, 2012

Our Home: The Question

So as I look at this picture I do see what others see. What others think. What some come right out and ask and what others keep quietly to themselves. "Are you done?" And no they are not asking whether I'm done with lunch, done with the good book I am reading, or done with the chair they are wanting. No, they are asking if we are done having children. It's a question that I have many different responses to and many different attitudes about. Normally I am happy to answer that question. But there are days.......or I guess I should say people.....that I really don't want to answer for. Like the stewardess on the plane that asks as we file everyone to their seats and she acts as though we are bringing on ammunition. I smile and don't answer the question. Do you think she would want to hear that I'm not talking much because I'm praying that this flight goes well and that I don't get nauseous with morning sickness?

Prince Charming often jokes that something may be wrong with us. We can not begin to imagine having the last baby and not wanting just one more. The Bible says that children are a blessing and we want to be blessed I guess!!! The Lord has blessed us more than we could have ever imagined. I have been diagnosed with so many problems that should make it difficult or maybe even impossible to have children but that has never been the case. We have suffered the heartache of miscarriage but never because of any of these problems. We feel that it is a testimony to the Lords goodness that we are going on #5. So I will now put to rest the comments and questions we've heard in the last few months.


1. Do you know how that happens? This would be one of those questions I smile and don't answer because I think it's a ridiculous thing to ask so....{smile}

2. You are done right? If the Lord says we are done then we are done......but we sure hope not!

3. Are you trying to compete with the Duggars? Last I checked there was a pretty big difference between 5 and 19 but Prince Charming and I are very competitive people......so bring on the challenge if that makes you feel better. {smile}

4. Are you going to buy a bus? Well we don't know. Right now we can still fit in our Odyssey but as far as traveling in it goes it is going to be a little tight. We've been looking for down the road and yes to the chagrin of Prince Charming we see a Sprinter van in our future. This weekend he is actually going and getting his sports car that he's been wanting to help ease the pain of being a bus driver. I'm pretty sure he'll make it through this crisis when it arrives....or should I say docks.

5. What do your kids think about baby #5? They are as excited as ever! B.W. is of course really hoping it's a boy. He loves all his sisters but still really wants a brother.

6. And our most favorite question and objection to having more than the "normal" amount of children.........How are you going to pay for all that college education?!?! Ummm, we probably won't pay for all of the college education. {Enter gasp here} Even if a child's parents can afford to pay for them to have a free ride we think children should work for their education. I'm not saying that we are cutting them off and they are on their own but we want our children to learn that education is a privilege and not an entitlement. We have quite a few years to sort this subject out and I know that when we come to that bridge the Lord will lead us over it in the right direction.

I personally think it's kind of funny that people act like we have a large family because I don't feel like we have a large family. Yes there are days when I feel like I need four hands but what mom doesn't. All I know is that if the Lord wants to bless we are all for it!!!!!


12 comments:

  1. I didn't realize you were getting all those questions. I guess, then, the better question is - "How close are you to getting a bigger house?" Although, I know you guys really like your house now.

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    1. We do love our house....but eventually we probably will be moving. When we bought this house 6 years ago it seemed so big. It is slowly seeming smaller with every blessing that comes.:)

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  2. Oh, this post is especially dear to my heart. And it is so nice to know that i am not the only one that gets those questions.Sadly,i give way to feeling bad about it. Yet in my heart i can't stand the thought of not having another blessing. The four children that i have, i know more than anything that they are indeed a blessing from the Lord.
    Thank you for this post...

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    1. Never let the comments get in the way of what your heart tells you!!!! Bring on the blessings!!!!

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  3. Wonderfully said! I used to feel bad when people questioned me about our large family but now I have more confidence and am able to use a lot of humor. I'll be at the store with 5 kids and be asked if the kids are all mine. I love looking the cashier in the eye and say, "No, there are 3 more at home!" Blessings to you!

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    1. Love your response to the "Are they all yours?" question of the day.:)

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  4. I know just how you are feeling! I love your comparison of the children to ammunition on the plane! So true! We just found out we are expecting #7 and I'm dreading all the comments that are going to follow our announcement.

    I also wanted to let you know about a pregnancy link-up I will be hosting on my blog starting this Sunday. I'd love for you to join in!
    www.myjoy-filledlife.blogspot.com

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    1. I find that there are some people that will never understand the reason we want a large family.....and I've come to a point that I won't let their opinions ruin our excitement and joy.:)

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  5. I think our biggest one is the college question. Meaning the one that family flings the most wholeheartedly. Which is funny because my husband and I both paid for our own college. But it's more along the lines of 'how are you going to be financially responsible for a lot of kids'. Money is just not necessary to make kids happy, but there's just no explaining that to some people...
    I came over from your link and reply on raising arrows - thanks for the commiseration :)

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  6. LOL, I'm thinking about buying a bus, and we are planning to stop at 2 (we started late, I'm in my late 30's and I am recently diabetic, so adding more would be dangerous for me and for them...not to mention, my health insurance doesn't cover maternity, so it would be exceptionally costly) :( My hubby has mentioned wishing we had had our first blessing sooner, so that we could have had more blessings along the way. So I will count the one I have and the one on the way and feel blessed even if we *could have* had more.

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  7. I am so with you. I am pregnant with #4. My 4th, my husband's 5th. 10 weeks and I have only told a handful of people. I already got asked if I know how it happens.i said "love, and lots of it!".

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  8. Amen and amen! Especially the education part!

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